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I’m getting a little to addicted to collecting scars
whatkillsyoumakesyou asked: Hey, I know I'm pretty new here, but I just wanted to let you know that if you or your followers EVER need to talk, I'm here!
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my-unwanted-thoughts asked: Well I won't go into detail, but he said he would like to do things win me but he also said If he doesn't have a girlfriend and I made it quite clear that I won't have him cheating on her with me:) even my friend can see how much he cares for me (god I hope he doesn't see this) but I don't know your advice is really helping but I still feel helpless and clueless on the whole situation :( but I'm so grateful for your help!
Good! I am glad you have put your foot down on the cheating thing. Him wanting to do things with you well… my boyfriend now also wanted to do things with me when he was dating his gf so that’s not a big surprise lol. If he cares for you like your friends say he does then I’m sure he’ll choose you and do right by you but I’m just saying that long distance is very hard, harder than normal relationships, so the trust level has to be strong from the start. Of course you’re feeling helpless and clueless that is totally understandable! That is normal for ‘normal’ relationships let alone one that has many miles between! Just hold your ground, morals, and beliefs and I think you’ll be just fine! Whether you give yourself credit or not I think you’ve got your wits about you and I think you’ll be fine just follow your heart but also be true to yourself! :)
my-unwanted-thoughts asked: Thank you so much. It's actually already given me a lot to think about. Im not sure if I want to make him chose though because like you said, I fear rejection. I havent even met him yet though. Maybe, I could meet him and then see how things are when we meet? I'm honestly really ready to give the long distance a chance. :)
I think that the whole waiting till you meet him thing is a very good idea! Oh honey I know how you feel when it comes to the fearing rejection thing so I completely understand. Just a heed of caution if you do meet him just make sure that no physical moves are made if he is still with his girlfriend because 1. if you guys do end up dating you will never be able to fully trust him if he cheats with you on his current girlfriend and a long distance relationship needs a solid base of trust to work and 2. that is breaking girl code which isn’t cool. If you meet him meet as friends and after your meeting if he realizes he wants you and breaks up with his girlfriend then go for it!
my-unwanted-thoughts asked: I'd like that help offer.:) I really like this guy. And I mean really like. The problem is he lives in new Zealand and has a girlfriend. I'm wanting to try the long distance thing once I meet him. I was planning on flying out to him. He's said he really super likes me too but he has a girlfriend /: like he's always saying how much he has feelings for me but he also posts how much his girlfriend means to him. Id type more but I can't because of the limit. Help or thoughts?Oh and he's not a player
Ok I’m in a long distance relationship so my heart goes out to you for even being willing to try it! When I met my boyfriend he also had a girlfriend, but we were actually at the same college then not long distance. I knew I cared for him dearly but I had to play the friend until he was single. I didn’t try to undermine their relationship or try to get him to break up with her and it was so hard. If you really like him tell him that but also tell him that you are not going to be the ‘other girl’, cause lets be honest giving yourself emotionally to someone else is kinda like cheating physically. If I was in your place I would tell him to make a decision, either he wants you or he wants her but it isn’t fair to string you both along, and it’s not fair for him to be with her just cause she is geographically desirable. I know that this is a scary thought cause what if he chooses her right? But honestly you want a guy that wants you over anyone else and that’s what you deserve. I was lucky that my guy figured this out on his own but not all guys are like that. Be honest cause the best relationships are based on being able to talk about anything and everything and if he doesn’t choose you hon thats not on you thats on him. I hope this has helped! P.S long distance CAN work if both hearts are in it :)
